Hello friend,

Over the years of teaching swim lessons, I’ve noticed something powerful: the way a child feels in the water can matter just as much as what they know. 

This week, I want to talk about a topic that’s often overlooked but can make all the difference; emotional intelligence in learning to swim.

Why Emotions Matter in Swim Lessons

Swimming isn’t just about strokes and kicks. For many kids, it’s about overcoming nerves, building trust, and learning to listen to their own feelings. A child who feels safe and understood is more likely to try new things, ask questions, and bounce back from setbacks.

• Recognizing fear: Some kids need extra reassurance before they’ll put their face in the water. Naming their feelings (“It’s okay to feel nervous!”) can help them move forward.
• Building confidence: Small wins, like putting their faces in the water for a split second or floating briefly should be celebrated. Confidence grows with every success, no matter how tiny.
• Practicing patience: Progress looks different for every child. Encourage them to notice their own feelings and take breaks if they get frustrated.

How Parents Can Support Emotional Growth in the Pool

• Model calmness: Kids pick up on your energy. If you stay relaxed and encouraging, they’re more likely to do the same.
• Use positive language: Replace “Don’t be scared” with “You’re brave for trying!” or “I’m proud of you for giving it a go.”
• Let them lead: Ask how they feel about each activity and let them set the pace whenever possible.

Emotional intelligence isn’t just for the pool, it’s a life skill that will help your child handle challenges with confidence, in and out of the water.

Support for Every Swimmer

If you’d like more step-by-step guidance on building both skills and confidence, my Online Swim Academy is designed to help you support your child’s journey, every splash of the way.

❤️ Tessa

P.S. If you have a baby under 8 months, you can start your water journey early with my Free Course: How to Prepare Your Baby for Swim Lessons 0 to 8 Months.